Guys who sleep around are always totally viewed as heroes.
In high school I would ask out girls I really liked, and they would say no out of fear that they would be fucked and chucked.
I had friends who wouldn’t let their girlfriends hang around me.
Once a week a rumor would go around my social circles about which sexually transmitted disease I had.
One time a girl threatened to make flyers documenting my promiscuity and hand them out before a show my band was playing.
Around the same time, a dude tried to instigate a physical altercation with me when he heard about the number of women I slept with. His reasoning was that I was probably riddled with diseases and that I was a “carrier.”
One time I made out with a girl in my car during a show and when I went back inside, one of her friends attacked me without a word. Just walked up and started pushing me until security grabbed him and threw him out.
Eventually, I would just avoid girls I had real feelings for altogether, because it wasn’t worth the humiliation.
But no, this is totally something that only happens to women. Males don’t go through any of what happened to me. I must be some kind of anomaly.
A Real Question
How is having sex with a drunk girl considered rape?
This is a real question, and I’m honestly curious about it.
You see, I don’t drink. I’ve never been drunk. I was buzzed one time and that was it. So I don’t understand.
Now I’m not talking passed-out, doesn’t remember her name drunk. Fucking a girl like that is absolutely rape.
But I keep seeing things like “It’s not consent if she’s under the influence.” Well, why not? She chose to drink, and she’s still responsible for the decisions she makes while she’s drunk. If she says yes to sex when she’s drunk, why doesn’t the yes count? I honestly do not understand and would like some help here. If you drive a car drunk, you’re responsible for making the decision and driving the car? If you rob a person while drunk, you’re still responsible for the crime, right? Then why are you not responsible for your own consent when you’re drinking? And if you’re opening your legs when you don’t to because you’re drunk, shouldn’t you stop drinking?
For the record, I’ve only had sex with one drunk girl in my whole life. I used to make out with drunk girls until a bunch of people started threatening to beat me up so I stopped. I didn’t understand then and I don’t understand it now.
I guess you can mark off the “Educate me!” square on Feminist Bingo.
Everyone Is Different
If I were to pose a question here on Tumblr about whether or not girls like their clit played with gently or roughly, I’d get a hundred different answers. Ok, no I wouldn’t. I would get 0. Because no one ever sends me anything on Tumblr. I hate you people.
The point is, a lot of people would be like “GIRLS like this!” or “GIRLS like that!” And the people answer the question would be fucking GIRLS! Same thing if I asked whether or not dudes like their balls licked.
What I seem to be having trouble saying is that everyone is different. But duh, you all knew that. But you fucking didn’t know that. Because I keep reading all this bullshit all day long on Tumblr about what certain things mean.
Feminism means EQUALITY FOR EVERYONE! Or it means FUCK MEN YAY WOMEN! The problem is that feminism means something different for everyone. You can’t get mad at a guy because they believe that feminism means that women want to crush his oppressive balls underneath their Doc Martens of justice. He’s obviously had experience with those types of feminists. As have I. As have we all! Why can’t we accept that those people fucking exist?
So the next time a dude says feminism = misandry, you need to not be like “MOCK MOCK MOCK IDIOT FUCKHEAD MOCK.” You need to say “Not to me, it isn’t. To me it means equality. Some people take it to mean misandry. I think those people are wrong.”
And byyy the waaay, byyyy the waaaaaay, mocking someone for being wrong about your cause isn’t going to bring them to your side. It’s only going to push them further away. So knock that shit off. Thanks.
Why is when a guy acts like a unreasonable demanding asshole he’s considered “a total dickbag,” but when a WOMAN acts that, she’s a “cuntmuffin?”
ANSWER ME THAT QUESTION, FEMINISTS?!
Our Feminists Are Different
The title is a reference to this: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/OurVampiresAreDifferent
This is a novel:
This is also a novel:
The point of this joke I stole from Craig Ferguson is that even though things may fall under the same umbrella, they are not the same thing. I had to remind myself of this because of a recent internet argument with a feminist who said that there was something really wrong with me, and that I was dangerous. Usually when people misread what I’m trying to say, it just rolls off my back, or I have some fun making them think I’m a terrible monster. But for some reason, this instance really hurt. I don’t even know why. Possibly because I’m one of the least dangerous people I know.
The way that I was feeling made me strongly consider leaving the feminist movement behind. I wasn’t going to talk about it anymore, I wasn’t going to point out when people were acting harmful, I wasn’t going to post about it on my blog anymore, I just wasn’t going to care. But then I had to remind myself that not all people are equal. Some of them are assholes. Clearly, the person I was having conversation with was an asshole. Or possibly crazy. Maybe both!
I guess I just want to say don’t let someone change your beliefs just because they’re a cunt.
Men get raped by women. It happens. Men suffer from body issues. Men push these things down because society tells us that we’re not supposed to talk about it or be affected by it. Stop writing off the male experience as an episode of Mad Men.
If feminists continue to pretend that men are the villains in a children’s cartoon, women will never be equal.
Anytime I post anything critical of the feminism I see on Tumblr, I always get a bunch of hate. Guess what folks? You’re not perfect. No one is. How about a civilized discussion instead of foaming at the cunt? How about carefully reading what I wrote instead of assuming because I said “a lot” of feminists, I mean “all” feminists, or the feminist movement as a whole. Because I certainly don’t. I mean “a lot.” I mean at least once a week I’m unfollowing someone for posting something sexist towards men, something that fuels the fear culture used to control us and separate us, or something just plan brain-meltingly stupid.
Feminism is wonderful and necessary. I learned A LOT this past year about racism and sexism and I’m a better person for it. Its just a bummer that there’s a bunch of fucking morons out there that I can’t take fucking seriously that everyone insists on reblogging.
We COULD have a dialog, which is what I hope for, and why I post in the feminism tag. Or we can do the much more fun thing and be aggressive and stupid on the internet.
I know this is completely off topic, but Laci Green sucks. Seriously, she’s the Michael Moore of sex education. If you don’t already know the shit she talks about, then you either don’t know what Google is, or you have little to no interest in your own body and that makes me sad.
While I’m on the subject, everyone was talking about the Laci Green video wherein she says the hymen isn’t completely closed, but perforated. People were all like “Wow! I didn’t know that! Even my doctor/teacher/congressman/etc thought it was completely closed!” Now the hymen IS perforated and DOES stretch. I’ve known that since I was 13, and I don’t know how others don’t know this. But ok, you watch ONE video on the internet from some stranger and you immediately think that’s the truth? The fuck is wrong with you? QUESTION SHIT, MOTHER FUCKER!
The cliffhanger for the season finale of Supernatural was bullshit.
I would take a lot more feminists a lot more seriously if they knew they difference between someone who’s sexist and someone who’s just a fucking idiot.
People: We’re Not All The Same
I’m really fucking sick of man-hating feminist rants on my Tumblr dash.
I’m sick of being lumped in the with the bar-hopping, beer-swilling, football-yelling dick-swinging pigs of the world. I’m not one of them, and a lot of men aren’t. So how about you stop putting us all in the same fucking cage, ok?
Guess what? A lot of men are disgusted by the sex in advertising as well. I’m not. I find it hilarious when a girl in lingerie rubs herself with a Hardee’s fucking cheeseburger. If some girl wants to make a dollar plastering her titties all over national TV trying to sell hamburgers, that’s her fucking business.
How can you be against sex in advertising AND slut shaming?! For fuck’s sake, people.